The Bodda Getta

My husband gave me a Smith and Wesson .38 in November for my 42nd birthday. I've shot a lot of different handguns but this one is the simplest to use especially if ever there is an emergency situation (God forbid). If you are getting her one for safety, I'd stick with simplicity especially if she doesn't shoot a lot for recreation.

I have several friends in law enforcement/military that really liked the Glocks and steered me that way years ago. The Glock is pretty straight forward, easy to operate and maintain. I personally don't like the external safeties on pistols (personal preference and comfort level with the weapon). If you look at a Glock subcompact I would recommend the Generation 4
models as they have a larger magazine release and you can adjust the palmswell size/grips (three sizes available).
As mentioned, my wife preferred the S&W M&P (shooting the 40 caliber) because the gun (barrel weight) itself was a little heavier and her return to target was quicker. The Glock is pretty light and will come up a bit after a shot (muzzle flip), making your ability to reaquire your target a little slower (might not be a big deal to some people). You can always get a heavier recoil spring or maybe a compensated/ported barrel.

Truthfully, there are a lot of great guns and everyone has their opinion about manufacturer and caliber(I saw several folks mention a 380 for a woman/concealed carry). If you can take your soon to be wife to a gun store and at least let her hold several pistols that would be a great start. If she has never done much shooting I would recommend getting her into a self-defense course (there are women only courses offered at most places throughout the year). My wife was very scared of guns early on, but after that course she was very confident in her ability with the gun. Hope this helps. Good luck in both your search for a gun and your soon to be marriage. Hopefully both will provide a lifetime of enjoyment/pleasure..... I MEAN happiness!!! War Eagle!!